How and where to find a potential partner has always been a challenge. The reason it can be challenging is because we don’t want to think of ourselves as calculators, we want everything to happen naturally and romantically. The reality is that the ideal situation is not always presented to us. That’s why speed dating was developed to meet the demands of people living life at such a pace that the traditional method of finding an ideal partner was simply not responding to them. Here are some helpful relationship tips and ideas to help you on your date:
Let your personality and warmth shine through. To achieve this, you need to be relaxed, so make sure you have plenty of time to get to the speed dating site. If you are late and hot and upset, you will not be in the right frame of mind. Being yourself is very important because if you try to assume someone else’s personality, eventually you will fail and your true self will reveal itself. It may or may not be a pleasant surprise for your partner!
Be confident in yourself and be careful not to appear arrogant. Maintain good eye contact at all times without constantly looking to the point that the other person is uncomfortable. And another thing; It is said that the eyes are the mirrors of the soul, so smile with your eyes; you will be amazed at the difference it makes. If you do this and fully focus on the person in a relaxed and pleasant way, you will make a favorable impression.
Hopefully, you have already worked out the defined goals that you want to achieve in this dating event. If that’s the case, you should also have a plan for how those goals will be achieved. It is not about calculating, but about making the most of the time available. So do your research and ask questions that are important to you, covering the points you want covered. In other words, try to achieve your goals.
Go with your intuition. It is a very important and neglected part of ourselves that often points us in the right direction. So let yourself be guided, but never ignore it. It is good practice to think long term. Ask yourself the question, ‘Is this someone I would like to end up living with?’ Trust me, if you start dating the wrong person, there is a chance that you will end up with that person. Only your intuition can guide you in these early stages.
Remember I mentioned that eye contact was important? Of equal importance are other aspects of body language. So look for the other person’s body language. What is he saying? At least 80% of our communication is through body language and not the spoken word. You don’t have to be a body language expert to pick up on some important signals. At a basic level, you will notice the behavior, eye contact and body movements of the person and you will be processing that information. What is he saying? What does your intuition tell you? Go with those two, your experience and your intuition and you will not be doing more or less well. Remember that the other person may also be reading your body language. It works both ways!