Some girls give up on their first dates, while others (the best catches) make you wait longer. The time that makes you wait is what decides the outcome of your relationship. Before I get to the actual reasons, I want to point out that if she is having sex with you on the first date/night, she is either very insecure or just interested in having fun. If she makes you wait more than 2 nights (including 3 months or other crazy periods), then the following reasons fit.
wants a relationship
This is the central reason that generates the rest. You have to think that if she wants you to wait; she is clearly interested in a relationship. Before you even begin to wait or pay more attention to this particular woman, you need to decide now whether or not she is worth it. In some cases it can happen after 3 dates, but in others it takes months, you don’t want to put in all that effort unless you’re really sure she’s worth it.
I usually don’t mind going on 3-4 dates MAX with no result, if I get to 3-4 dates and it hasn’t happened I chase or give up. I highly recommend following the same principles that ending up in a committed relationship without really meaning to is no fun.
Waiting to establish trust
Moving forward, according to most of the women who have answered this question, this is their core reason. It means many things to women, much more than it would to us men, so I’ll do my best to exemplify it.
Most importantly, she wants to know that you will call her the next day. She also wants to know if you’re the type of person who won’t sleep once she’s slept with you. And finally she wants to know if you are a good investment and being with you is not a bad choice (the investment issue can be avoided if you make her feel good all the time). The only way to speed this up is to constantly reassure her that you’re interested, that you feel good about her, that you can’t wait to see her next time, etc.
He wants to know your intentions
This is pretty obvious, she clearly wants to know if you’re just going to sleep with her and never call her back. This can be easily cleared up if you don’t insist on sex every 5 seconds. If I get them into bed and it seems like they don’t want to have sex, there are a couple of ways to approach this. The first night I try 3 times (to get to her panties, that’s usually the place where they say no) and if she says no, then it’s no. The second night I don’t try anything, making her think that I’m not only interested in sex and the 3rd night I try again, but only once.
This system shows him that you are interested in having sex, but it is not your main focus. Keep working in the same pattern until it happens, 1 night you try, the next night you don’t. If followed correctly, he’ll get confused and because he’s an emotional creature, he’ll eventually give up.
*Full side note, which has nothing to do with this article, you can do the same thing once in a relationship and then the woman will never get bored. I’m not talking about sex here, I’m talking about your attitudes towards her, one day you love her to bits, the other day it’s like you don’t love her anymore, then again and again, her mixed emotions don’t know what the hell is going on and the relationship will remain interesting. She will love you for this and she will never be bored.*
Enjoying the initial stages of a relationship
Women like the attention men give them before they have sex. Some men go as far as bringing them flowers every day, taking them on vacations and all sorts of things, it’s only natural that women love this kind of attention. It is what makes them more interesting women and also our life partners. I haven’t seen many men get into a relationship with a girl they have drunken sex with after a night out.
To help speed up the process and go against my whole gamer persona, you’re going to have to do “trustworthy” and “romantic” things. Buy her some flowers and take her to a nice restaurant, nothing more, since they really don’t deserve it yet, for all you know, they can be very bad in bed.
You don’t want to be considered easy.
Some women strongly believe that if they sleep with a guy the first night, they are sluts. In some cases and this is why at the beginning of the article I mentioned 3-4 dates, girls sleep with you after the second date just because they don’t want you to call them easy. Between you and me, don’t you think 2 dates is still easy? It doesn’t even have to be 2 dates, it could be 2 nights at the club, they have no idea who they are, but still, since she didn’t sleep with you the first night, she thinks she’s not a slut…
His own reasons and insecurities.
There can be an infinite number of personal issues, but usually I’ve found that the following tend to be popular: a mean ex-boyfriend who cheated on her (again it comes down to proving you’re trustworthy), just dated of the relationship (but are you still in bed with another man?), bad sexual experience (the sex she had was not very good and she is not very sure about her next encounter, to overcome this, you must prove that you are a stud. In make out sessions plus kino you really have to work her pressure points and show her that you would make a fantastic lover), trust issues with men or people in general. If he’s in serious trouble, think about other possibilities, like getting another girl.
Why not make her wait?
This is a fantastic technique that I used on a few girls and it worked really well. Comes to play with my system 1 night try 1 night don’t try but it’s a little more different.
When you get her into bed, make out constantly and do some easy kino, but not too much. Always keep her wanting more, after a couple of nights she’ll be so confused about what’s going on, why isn’t this guy trying anything? He doesn’t find me attractive? Some guys would go so far as to quickly ignore her when in bed, this happened to me once, I just wasn’t sure if I should try anything or not until she asked me if I found her unattractive, needless to say I talked to her of my “feelings” and we ended up having sex.
I want you to seriously consider the implications of having sex with her before you jump through all her hoops. Most of the time, it’s really not worth it.
