Many singles simply hear that people are getting married and want to do the same for the wrong reasons. They don’t know what they’re getting into. The glamor of the wedding clouds their judgment and the promise of a happily ever after life prompts them to make decisions with their heads and not their hearts. No matter how many marriage books you read or how many marriage seminars you attend, you can never be too prepared for marriage. There’s nothing like the real deal, so learn to manage your expectations so you won’t be disappointed. Many singles think that they will make good marriage counselors because of the wealth of knowledge they gained from books, only to get married and find that it is easier to evaluate others than to be evaluated. They soon discover the difference between literature and reality.
Many people have painted for themselves a loving picture about marriage represented by romance movies and romance novels and this causes singles to fantasize and anticipate a perfect marriage. Romance is a good thing, but just before you dive in, stop and ask yourself if you’re really thinking before you act; The reason is because we keep making the same mistakes with our choices and we don’t learn from the experiences of others. Just because some people take to social media on wedding anniversaries and write about how good, loving, and understanding their spouse had been or how wonderful their marriage had been doesn’t mean they are the true picture; They may be covering up their mess or hiding the scars of rescued marriages.
Ladies, a man may wrongly put you in the family path and cause them to have a baby out of wedlock, but that does not make him a husband; mistakes happen, learn, move on and don’t give up. Remember, there are many dads but few dads. Many are simply sperm donors with no responsibility. Don’t let any man answer your crucial questions with motivational speeches like “I am young and promising and I am capable of making you happy” when you don’t even have a job, you are unable to get one, you lack ideas on how to create one. or just clueless. Marriage security is not found in 6-pack men; a well-built man is attractive, but a well-built home is durable and satisfying. Don’t be a burden looking for accomplished men to cling to for a better future; Be a successful single, and then accomplish more important things with your spouse.
Gentlemen, many of the hourglass-shaped, long-legged, smooth-skinned ladies in magazines they drool over are not found in homes but in photo studios. When you see them, and if you ever see them, ask them how long it took them to look that way, how many people helped them look that way, and ask your photographers how long it took them to complete their Photoshop. A wife and a mother don’t have that time; your hands will be rough from cooking and washing dirty clothes; his body will be beaten for having your children. So be careful what you wish for; the wife’s materials are not arranged in public places. If you are not a proper bachelor, you will hardly be able to become a good husband; If you don’t learn to manage yourself and your resources as a single person, you will hardly be able to manage a home. Don’t start a family when you know you can’t meet basic needs; Dommage C’est!
Please don’t get me wrong, no one is perfect; everyone strives to be the best for their loved ones. We don’t have the luxury or the ability to mold the kind of partner we want; hence the need to find out who we think is right. Keep in mind that marriage is more about companionship, responsibility, accountability, and sacrifice and less about sex, freedom, rings, and Mr. and Mrs. titles. make others happy and live in misery all your life. Do not marry out of pity, I cannot emphasize this. Don’t get married because 99.9% of people think they are good together. People change every day and marriage exposes everyone over time. People can pretend for years in relationships, but in marriage, it only takes a few days or months for reality to set in.
Finally, guard your heart diligently. Don’t rush to get married now only to run off a couple of months later. Age is a number; It shouldn’t be the number one reason to dive. Study your partner carefully, do not let yourself be blinded by love or lust and neglect the details. Look, before marriage, you will be familiar with the big problems; it’s the little details you missed that will do the damage. Don’t get married if you are unable to forgive your partner. I hear people say that marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured; actually prepare for both. There are so many marriage victims out there, don’t be one of them and if you are, pray to get out of it. Look before you jump and like a swimmer, do not dive into a pool that has not properly assessed its depth; You can end up hitting your head on the bottom and the damage can be irreparable.
