I met my husband about 45 years ago. He walked into the cafe where I worked, asked a friend out, I accompanied another guy, and then when there was an opportunity, we changed the date. Something magical existed from the beginning, something that has continued to grow over the years. Today we celebrate our 41st anniversary – wow, how time has flown by. What is it that attracts a couple and then keeps them together? I guess there are many things but above all luck, love and friendship. With so many trails and side roads, possibilities and opportunities in life, I guess it’s hard to imagine how a couple survives.
To begin with, we have common principles and morals. We believe in dedication and hard work, attention to detail without ever forgetting the fun of life, and working as a couple and also letting ourselves fly independently. It is knowing when and where and how and why along with some fine tuning and fortunate circumstances that these years have produced so much happiness. We have taught together, trained together, farmed together, and raised a family. We have built, torn down, fabricated and done. We had a hard time when stealing children’s piggy banks to buy milk became a necessity just as we have enjoyed prosperity, a prosperity that allows us to do what we want without much worry about finances. We have planned and saved, guiding us towards a comfortable present and future.
We tell the truth: to each other, to our children, to our family and to our friends. Occasionally this isn’t easy, as silence seems safer, but honesty makes all the difference. We have been loyal employees working as a team with respect and determination. We have also worked as partners in our agricultural adventure and in our home life in all aspects. We’ve seen our future, rearranged the scheme of things as needed, and then moved on. There have been a couple of bumps, mainly misunderstandings or misinterpretations, but we have talked and discussed and we have emerged victorious. This deep connection makes our communication flow easily. There is no doubt or wonder, only joy and wonder.
Since the beginning of our marriage we have been united to make it strong and eternal. People talk about the hard work of marriage, but I see it more as a give and take, a compromise. I love getting my own way, but I recognize that this is not always necessary. I have found that doing things differently from my original plan helps me expand and grow. The possibilities become excitingly endless. I know that my husband can also be quite firm in his ways, but he is also willing to compromise and adapt. He supports me in my efforts, even more so all the time. He understands this tic that I have to go crazy to get things done and helps me achieve success. Forty-one years have passed like lightning, years filled with indescribable wealth and love. I wish there were forty-one more.